Fail Forward!

FAIL FORWARD!

Fail Forward!

Soccer player Kyle Rote Jr. remarked, “There is no doubt in my mind that there are many ways to be a winner, but there is really only one way to be a loser and that is to fail and not look beyond the failure.” How people deal with failure determines the altitude of their success. What makes high achievers different from an average person? Why do some people sky rocket while others are looking to survive everyday through life?

It’s not what most people think. It’s not their family background, wealth, resources, opportunity or even high morals. Most of the high—achievers come from broken families, do not have plenty resources or wealth and some of them do not even get tremendous opportunities.

You know, the only difference that lies is in their way of perception of failure and success (yes!). This is the thing which you never learn in your school. Mistakes are perceived as negative in the schools. They punish you when you make a mistake. The result of this is that you end up with a poor mindset which conceives failures as a bad thing. And when failure strikes you on your blind side, instead of handling or managing it, you start losing grip over your emotions, faith and beliefs. You start to give in to failure. The result is that you end up living an average life: getting a job, pay bills, have kids, do this all your life and then die! And you never ever achieved your true potential! Tragic! Right?

So, why do we get discouraged by the failures? Why don’t we become insensitive towards failures? Because we have been trained to do so. Most of us are still slaves of our poor mentality which stops us from progressing in life. People are afraid of failure. The concept of failure have been so much exaggerated as negative that there is a psyche among us to avoid it as far as possible. This theory has contaminated our faith to succeed. To avoid this from happening anymore, we need to introduce a new concept and a belief and replace it with the old (maybe) and contemporary definition of Failure. We need to rediscover what failure is and how to use it to reach to a higher level in life.

Fail Forward!

No person in the world that lives or ever lived on this planet (however great) is/was insulated from failure. Everyone suffers some kind of failure in their lifetime. Whether it is individual failure or corporate failure. Everyone fails. Okay? Get this through your head fast. But the point is how some people not only survive the failure they face but also thrive to achieve their goals? As I said, the only difference is in their mind. Its not their IQ, EQ , SQ or any other shitty stuff. But it’s their perception and attitude towards handling that problem.

They perceive failure just as an interruption in their way to success. Failure gives you an opportunity to learn new things which you never learned before. When I say ‘new’ things, it automatically implies that you do not repeat the same mistakes that you committed in the past. Instead, you should learn from the past mistakes with an open mind and try not to repeat them again.

It’s not wise for you if you know that you made a serious mistake and you are repeating them continuously. But we do it all the time. Right? I call them habits. All of us have habits that are not aligned with our purposes and yet we repeat them again and again and feed it into our muscle memory that we can’t resist ourselves to do the same things again and again. In that case, failure is not a temporary blockage rather it becomes a permanent one.

Fail Forward!

It makes no sense to cry over the mistakes that you make. Because life is too short to waste in complaining and cursing. You should make the most of every opportunity to learn even if its failure. Every successful person is no exception to failure but instead of focusing too much on the failure, they make a note of things that the failure teaches them. Remember, life is short and there’s no time to complain for you. You have to make a decision whether you want to complain or learn. Within every failure, there is an opportunity to grow and learn and your job is to find those opportunities and incubate them at the right time.

No matter what happens to you in your journey towards your passion, you cannot fail unless you accept it. You can never fail as long as you keep learning! And one thing more, never let your past experience determine your future. Remember that ever successful person having a glorious present have had a tough and horrifying past with lots of failures and Rejections. But they never let the failures of their past determine their future. Don’t be afraid to step out for what you want to become and achieve because failure can’t defeat you until you accept it.